Are bloggers self important egotists??

So bloggers, how big is your ego??

I recently went on a large local forum to advertise the Sheffield Bloggers Meet Up, just a small post saying that I was setting this group up and asking if anyone was interested…

The first reply made me raise my eyebrows, a poster said

“The only problem with bloggers is that they only care about their own opinion, thats why they  think it’s important enough to blog.  So I doubt there are going to be many who wanna sit around with a coffee listening to other people’s opinions, when they only care about their own.” 

I ignored the post and a couple of weeks later posted a small update saying that the first meeting had gone well and the date of the next meet.

The moderator of the group then post a fairly offensive remark saying

“Yes; many bloggers do need advice, esp. from suitably-qualified mental health specialists.”  

Followed by another post by a different user who said

“Bloggers are just the 21st century equivalent of the pub bore ranting on and on about their personal opinion, not realised that no-one cares what they think. If I ran the internet I’d shut down all bloggers sites as they serve no useful purpose other than to remind us how many self-important egotists there are in this world!”

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Blimey! I was genuinely shocked at the comments, I know blogging isn’t for everyone but I couldn’t understand the vitriol.

I pointed out that the poster who said bloggers were pub bores and egotists had over 1000 posts on the forum and questioned what the difference was between that and a pub bore.  He retorted that a forum was a discussion and a blog was a lecture.

When I said that I didn’t force anyone to read my blog and that it was a choice to read my opinion the same way it is a choice to read a newspaper, the lovely poster took the time to apparently read my blog and said

“As you helpfully provided a link I’ve just had a brief look at your blog and it’s exactly the sort of egotistical self-importance I mean. I know it sounds harsh but all your blog says to me is “look at me, look at me, aren’t I interesting?” There’s nothing wrong with showing your holiday snaps or favourite recipes to friends but you have to be a bit of an egotist if you think complete strangers might be interested!”

Im not sure if he did look at my blog or not as there are no holiday snaps, I have a recipe on the blog but it is discussing German Friendship Cake.  So perhaps before judging me, actually read my blog.

So are bloggers all self important egotists?  I love writing and I blog about pretty peculiar things from around the world, things that interest me and things that make me laugh.  I would blog if no one was reading it but as it happens, people seem to like to read my mutterings, I have a decent amount of readers and I appreciate every one.  I suppose I do think I have something to say, something to share and maybe you could say you have to be a little egotistical to put yourself out there and think that others will find your blog interesting.

But you could say the same about every writer, author, journalist, mp, actor… Anyone in the public eye really.

I spoke to Violet Fenn from The Skull Illusion who said

If you think blogs are tedious and egotistical, then you are probably reading the wrong blogs.”   

The internet is a big place, and there is room for everyone.  If you don’t like blogs, don’t read them.  Its really simple!

I think blogging is a really social thing, to me it is like an interactive magazine.  I write an article about something I find interesting and others can respond.  I used to buy a lot of magazines and would never write in about an article that I enjoyed, hated or felt strongly about as it just seemed like such a faff.  Now I buy a lot less magazines but I read a hell of a lot of blogs and at a click of a button I can comment, question or let the author know I loved or hated their work.

People blog for all manner of reasons, some for fun, some to keep up with family and friends around the world, some for business and marketing, some use it as a form of therapy and some to share their interest.  The point is that each one is doing something, they are writing, creating and sharing.  They are making connections both locally and internationally.

Isn’t that the amazing thing about the internet??  Today I have had people from 16 different countries around the world reading my blog, I have had tweets, emails and comments from them.  I have made connections with people I would never have had any contact with were it not for my blog.  I love that, I think its exciting.

So if that makes me an egotist, I suppose Ill take that label.

I’d love to hear your thoughts (as this is a discussion, not a lecture 😛 ) so please let me know what you think.

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11 thoughts on “Are bloggers self important egotists??

  1. I suppose there is a bit of ego in there otherwise we wouldn’t get so upset when people say the things you’ve mentioned. But so what? The irony is that the people leaving those comments about bloggers are just as egotistical if they think we (bloggers) really care.

  2. Blogs aren’t just opinion, they inform, entertain and educate, depending on the style and the subject matter. It’s just a question of choosing the correct ones and avoiding the dross. Sounds to me like the people making those comments on the forum are the opinionated bores. At least (most) bloggers craft their posts carefully rather than just posting contentious comments in the hope of stirring up an argument!

  3. I have only recently discovered the world of blogging via Twitter. There is nothing egotistical about it; it is simply a way of communicating with like-minded people who enjoy sharing their experiences. I am selective about what I read and find it comforting that other people are experiencing the same old ups and downs that life is throwing my way. Wheni get a bit more confident i am going to write my own. I hope this doesn’t make me an egotistical, opinionated bore!

  4. I think the sad people who are leaving these nasty comments need to blog-off! You’re doing a great job and like you say, you are not forcing anyone to read your blog; if you dont like it, go to another billion other websites you can chose from instead of leaving over-opiniated remarks which intent to only offend for the sake of it.

    On a personal level, i’m not “down with the kids” on blogging, but I enjoy your quirky articles and pieces of information. They are well written and informative…..Keep calm and carry on Blogging! x

  5. We all have our own reasons for entering this blogosphere! For me…it has provided a nice place to update family and find a group of like-minded people….blogging friends! Phooey on the negative! Some of the comments just made me laugh! Just stay true to who you are…and keep on keepin’ on! Good job!

  6. I love reading other people’s blogs and find myself blogging because it connects me to other interesting people that relate to things I am going through myself. The bigger question to me is who are these jerks that sit around and put mean comments on websites? To me, they’re the repulsive ones because they do not even create a home for their words, but instead basque in the anonymity of bashing other people’s courage. They must be the same people that write inflammatory comments on local news sites. Really? That’s what you spend your time doing, bashing teachers and schools and anything else you can get your grimy paws on? I would take no offense from these people, they’re sad and take sick pleasure in pissing others off. They’re wasting their lives being bitter. 🙂

  7. Rubbish Wife – I totally agree, I think its an amazing way to communicate with people who have same interests as you. I think it’s worth giving it a try if its something that interests you. Let me know if you do and Ill take a look 🙂

  8. Thanks Victoria!!

    Olivia – the way to deal with people like that is to smile and rise above it! Totally pisses them off more than having an argument! x

  9. One thing you will learn about this certain forum is to ignore these kind of remarks. Use it to chat and to promote your blog but try and steer clear of any personal ‘debates’; there are so many trolls on that site that you’re bound to come off badly.

  10. Pingback: The Silent Struggle and Bravery of Blogging | Simone Samuels

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